Death by Tongue

"The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverbs 18:21

We don't think of this when we are talking, we are just saying whatever we want to say. We want to get our point across and we will do in whatever way that we can do it. If that means talking really fast and having to repeat ourselves or to the point of yelling to get someone to understand what we are trying to get across. We don't think of what our words are doing to others when they are hurtful.

Kids in school right now are being bullyed by hurtful words that their classmates are saying to them. This isn't right! As a parent, if you know your child is being bullied then do something about it. Too many kids are taking their lives because of different reasons. THIS IS WRONG! I was teased throughout school for different reasons, but I just dealt with it. I'm sure I cried because of it, but after a while things stopped. They found out that their words didn't bother me anymore. I think the worse time being teased was when my grandfather passed away. I was teased because of it, and my teacher wouldn't say anything to the other kids for teasing me. I was so hurt and didn't know how to deal with it. (John 7:24 "Stop judging by mere appearances, but instead judge correctly.")

Nowadays kids are more hateful when it comes to the teasing. They will tease you for anything. It breaks my heart when a kid is being teased because they are developmentally different. How would you feel if that was your brother or sister they were teasing? You wouldn't like it one bit. Yes some kids are different, but that doesn't mean that they should be treated completely different. They can understand to a certain point and it may take them a while to get something. But just because of these issues, does not mean that they should go to a special school. Yes I agree that they need to be in a different class, but not a school that is just for them. If you feel that your child needs to be in a special school because you don't want them to be teased or what not, then I suggest you homeschool your kid. My oldest nephew is a special needs child and he is homeschooled. One of my step-sons is special needs, but he goes to a regular school but in a class specifically for him. He has learned so much from the interaction with regular kids (as we say they are) compared to what would it be like if he was in a school for kids just like him. Yes, Justin is a little different when it comes to learning things at home, but he isn't given special treatment because he has a problem.

When a teenager takes their life because of bullying, it's time to enforce some punishment on the kids that are doing the bullying. I know that in some schools gays are being bullied or picked on because of their choice of lifestyle. Yes it's wrong to be gay, but that doesn't give me the right to judge a person because of it. I am not the judge of the world. We have someone who is far more greater to judge than a human being. We have no right to judge others. "So when you, a mere human being, pass judgement on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escaped God's judgement? Romans 2:3 Just because a person is gay, and living a sinful life does not mean that you are perfect. We all sin and fall short of the glory of God. (Romans 3:23 "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.")

We can be praised for something we did all day long, but the minute someone says something mean or ugly to us, all the praises can't get that one bad thing out of our mind. Instead of trying to make people feel lower than dirt with our words, we need to be uplifting everyone. You don't know when you might say the wrong thing to someone, and it sends them over the edge to commit suicide. Once the words are out of your mouth, their is nothing in the world that you can do to take them back. "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out or your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Ephesians 4:29 Let's build each other up and take a stand firm in doing this. This is extremely important and it's what Christ has called us to do. What would happen if we started doing this? Each and everyone one of us, I think we would have a change in our world. A change for the better.

We need to stop playing judge on other people. None of us are perfect, we all make mistakes. Some more than others, but that doesn't mean that Christ loves me any less. His love for me has been the same sense I was born. People are quick to judge others when they are making mistakes, when instead they should be willing to help others out when they are making these mistakes. Often times when we are judging others, it's the worse thing to do. By judging them, we are telling them that they are nothing and not important because they are making mistakes. These words that we are speaking about others is not good. With our mouths, we praise God and put others down. "With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God's likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be." James 3:9-10

Taming the tongue can not be done according to James 3:8; "but no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison." However, we can learn how to watch our words and think before we speak. So many times we speak and don't think about the words coming out of our mouths. I'm really bad about at times, I speak before I think. After a couple of years of counseling, I've learned how to speak my mind and think about it before I do it. A lot of times, I will write down what I want to say on paper so I can get my point across to whoever I am trying to say something too. This way I can think my words through and really get what I am trying to say without being interuptted. I think often times, this has helped me with my relationship with Danny and other people too.

If we are having trouble with our words and just wanna speak our mind then it may not come out good in the long run. Sometimes speaking your mind will do more harm than good. We all have our own opinion but that doesn't give you permission to push your opinion onto someone else. If we are going to give our opinion on something, then we need to be open when someone else does the same thing. We need to ask God to help us direct our words so that they come out in the way that we are trying to express ourself without hurting others. "Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips." Psalm 141:3

Main point: Be careful with the words that you speak to others. Words are the most powerful thing that are spoken and once you speak them, you can not take them back. Ask God to help you with the words that you speak. To the ones that I have harmed with my words, I am sorry. I should have thought before I spoke and I didn't. Please forgive me! Life is too short to hold a grudge.

Journey Through Life: Unfaithfulness

Journey Through Life: Unfaithfulness: This is going to be a harsh kinda topic for me to write. It's a topic that has been on my mind the last couple of days and I feel like I jus...

Unfaithfulness

This is going to be a harsh kinda topic for me to write. It's a topic that has been on my mind the last couple of days and I feel like I just need to let it out.

What would you do if you were with someone who was unfaithful? Would you stay with that person or would you leave them? What if you stayed and they eventually cheated on you? Then would you stay? It seems like that is happening so much  these days that people are cheating on each other and not really thinking about what is going to happen to them. I'm going to tell you a little about my past and how things are different for me.

I was in a relationship and I meet someone and I let it go to far. I slept with the guy that I just met not that long ago. I hid it from the guy I was dating for like 6 months before I finally confessed that I cheated on him. We separated but decided that we would try to work things out. He told me that in order to forgive me for what I had done, that he would do it to me but he didn't know when it would happen. A couple of years later, he did cheat on me and for the most part I understood because I knew that he was going to do it eventually. Excpet I was mad at who he was going to do it with, he slept with a co-worker who had become a friend of mine, a really close friend. I was hurt because I was pasted out on the couch from having to much alcohol that night. I woke up at some point and could hear something going on in my bedroom but I didn't move from the couch. They were having sex in our bed, I was devasted and hurt. Not so much cause it was happening but becuase I was pasted out on the couch and they were in our bed. What was I suppose to think? I still to this day don't know what to think of the whole situation. I am no longer friends with the girl for whatever reason, but that's okay.

Now I am in a relationship with someone who is use to his ex doing the same thing (or at least that is what it seems to be). She would leave for a week or so at a time and then come back. He is use to that and feels like I would do the same thing. However that is not the case, I know that I am truly in love. And you may ask how do I know that; this is how: when I am out in public (with or without him) I don't even look at another guy. I am not tempted to even think about another guy because my heart is completely in love with my guy. Tempation can come but it won't win me over. I know this because it hasn't yet and will not. I have the strenght to not let myself be tempted.

And if I was tempted, then I would be unfaithful to him. I know what it's like to have someone cheat on you and I can't do that. I was wrong to do it in my previous relationship and I know that now. No matter what the reasons are, cheating is not the anwer. If you are not happy in your current relationship then get out of it. I wasn't happy and I was trying to find a way to make me happy. I know now, that no matter what until I turned it over to God I wouldn't be happy. No guy can make me happy unless I am happy with myself. And I wasn't! Being happy is something that is important to your well being.  I am completely happy with my current boyfriend. I couldn't imagine my life without him. He makes me feel whole and complete.

God has really been working in my life with this subject through a Bible study called "Forever in Love with Jesus". It's really opened my eyes that I made a lot of mistakes in the past but that He still loves me. Nothing can separate me from the love of Christ. In Hosea, it talks about how Hosea is told by Christ to go and marry a woman who he knows will not be faithful to him. Hosea was a prophet, how would this look to him that he would do this? But he did, because Christ told him to do it. Are we listening to Christ like Hosea did? Hosea's wife, eventually gave up her adulterous ways after some time, and Hosea took her back into his house. He forgave her for all that she had done and still loved her. Can we do this today?

I can honestly say that I can't. After being cheated on and also doing the cheating, it's really hard. I couldn't trust myself and I couldn't trust him. But I still stayed until I knew that if I didn't leave that things would never get better for myself. I have learned to love myself again and put my hope and trust in Christ. Yeah it hasn't been an easy road for me, but I know that He will love me forever. I should have never taken my eyes off of Him. However, I do know this temptation will come (because the devil is always on the prowl), but with the help of the Lord I can overcome it. He has truly given me the person that I will spend the rest of my life with. And my eyes will never wonder to another male because my heart has been captivated by someone very special to me. He completely loves me and wants no one else. Is always by my side when I'm sick and feeling down. Ready to listen to me when I need someone to talk to. Doesn't judge me for my past mistakes. And I know that if temptation would arise he wouldn't look at another woman or even think about it.

So the whole point to this is: if your not happy in your current relationship then please get out of it before you get hurt. I know it's not easy but it can be done. And in the long run it will be so much better for you. Staying in a relationship where you are not happy will just make matters worse in the long run. You deserve someone that will make you happy!