Struggles

This life wasn't promised to be easy, I know that. But it seems like it's so hard right now to make ends meet for everyone. It feels like sometimes you have to pay a bill late just to buy groceries for your house. People go without to make sure that their kids have what they need. When you think you are finally about to catch a break, something else comes up. Or you find out someone else is in need and they are needing help.

I have some serious issues with certain things about people struggling. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind helping someone out if I can. I have a problem when I'm offering help and they are very ungrateful about it. And they think that you will always help them out. If you are already struggling with paying your bills on time, then don't take on more than you can handle. I have no sympathy for you when you do this. You know that you can't afford it but you are going to try it anyway. You are living beyond your means. Don't get me wrong, I've been there and done that. I've learned my lesson the hard way, take some advice from the ones that have gone through this before. Figure out what you need to do to get your bills up to date and pay them. Quit borrowing money from people with no intent to pay them back. Get off your butt and find a job. Do something to help out. And when you say you are going to pay people back, pay them back.

If you are getting aid from the government to buy food, don't abuse the system. It's wrong for the people that are honest with the government that don't hardly get anything from them. Especially when you are telling them that your boyfriend or husband don't live with you and they do. And to top it off they have good jobs. Quit lying and be honest about it. Yeah you may not get as much as you are now, but their are people who need the help more than you do. And you don't need all the help that you are getting when they have good jobs. So many people stuggle to put food on the table each month, but won't think about asking for help because they think it makes them have a label. No what makes you have a label on you, is when you abuse the system. You wouldn't want someone to abuse you, so why abuse the system for? Or it's really frustrating when you get a lot in food stamps and sell some for cash so you can buy your drugs. REALLY....this is supposed to be used for food your house not for your drug dealing friends.

Or what else makes me really mad with some people who get aid from the government is using it to their adavantage to eat steaks or other expensive things when they get their food stamps. They are proud to be using the government for their own personal gain (my opinion). Yes I understand that you have kids, but don't go boasting about the fact that you are eating steak and my tax dollars are paying for it. Yes don't get me wrong, I've lived with someone who has gotten food stamps but he didn't eat steaks or anything. He got what he needed because it wasn't a whole lot. And now it's being threatened to be cut off for whatever reason. It's not right! I would be ashamed if I was getting food stamps and boasting about what I was eating because of it.

Through all my stuggles with everything, it's made me a stronger and better person. Which is what it should do in the end. But for the ones not learning a lesson through their struggles, maybe it's time to wake up and realize that you are making some bad choices. Continue to make these choices, and you are ruining a lot in your life.  And the help that you have been rellying on won't be there anymore. Because I for one have had enough, I'm tired of bending over backwards for people and not seeing you do something for yourself for a change. Quit asking for handouts and start getting your life in order. Leaving beyond your means will eventually lead to a lot of heartache and pain. And people losing their trust in you to pay your bills on time. Do whatever it takes to get yourself and your family on the right track. Now this doesn't mean do something silly or stupid, I'm talking about consolidating your bills or filing bankruptcy. And don't take out any more new loans.

God has blessed me with a lot of people who have been by myside when I have needed them. Your friendship and love has been amazing. I can't thank you enough, and know that I will be here for you in whatever way I can when you need the help.